Losing an Elderly Parent During the Holidays – Suggestions to Help Cope with the Grief

Suggestions to Help Cope with the Grief
By Published On: December 14, 2020Categories: Blog, Funeral PlanningTags: , ,

Suggestions to Help Cope with the Grief
Grieving the loss of a parent is always difficult, but the holidays can exacerbate the feelings. The challenge of celebrating family traditions while allowing for the sadness of death can make you feel as if you’re on a roller coaster of emotions. Don’t bury your grief through the holidays. Whether the burial services were last month, last year or even 10 years ago, accept that you may have to deal with your grief over the holidays.

Celebrating the Holidays Is Your Choice

Grief is universal, but there’s no right way or wrong way to grieve. Accept your feelings, regardless of how you think you “should” feel. If you aren’t up to putting up your holiday decorations, don’t force yourself. If you want to get out a few decorations, that’s okay too. You may have some good days over the holidays when you want to do something associated with the season.

Talk About What You Need

Making plans when you’re grieving is not easy. You may not know how you’ll feel on any given day, which is perfectly normal. Tell your friends and family that you’d like to join them, but you’d also like to take it day by day. Ask for space to be able to change plans at the last minute because you’re still trying to settle down and balance your feelings with routine. Don’t be afraid to talk about your feelings.

Try to Plan Something

The feelings of loneliness and sadness can be overwhelming after the loss of a loved one. You may not be up to celebrating as you did in previous years, but you also shouldn’t plan to be alone. Make a new tradition of going out to eat instead of cooking at home. Maybe take a trip somewhere you’ve always wanted to go. Helping others during the holidays can be a good strategy. Volunteer or work so others can be home with their families. Just don’t lose yourself in grief.
The funeral home that provided services for your loved one has other resources that can help you through the grieving process.
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Many people leave funeral planning to their loved ones, avoiding the opportunity to make arrangements before their death. Funeral costs can put financial stress on a family at an already difficult time. It can feel undignified to speak about money and finances during the arrangement process. Consider that a funeral is a large purchase for most families. You may feel that it is disrespectful to your loved one to haggle over costs or be influenced by money. The grim truth is that your loved one would probably not want you to go into debt for a funeral. Here are some tips for staying within your budget while maintaining dignity for your loved one. Take Your Time Planning a Funeral Service Although there may be some pressure to make decisions, it’s okay to take a breath and really think about the types of services you really want. There are options that can save money, such as direct burial, which is when the body is buried soon after death. There’s no embalming or visitation, which saves money. You can hold a memorial service on your own schedule. Direct cremation is another option that can be more affordable. Pick and Choose the Funeral Services You Want You don’t have buy a set bundle of services from a funeral home. You can select the services you want. Know your budget ahead of time. When you make arrangements, have a friend or family member with you who can be objective or even help you negotiate. Choosing to have the service in a church or your home is an option that can help you save on funeral expenses. You may even want to plan some of your own things, such as printing memorial cards or asking your clergy to perform the service. A funeral or memorial service honors the loved one who died. It’s not disrespectful to ask about costs and to find solutions that fit your budget. Contact First Memorial Funeral Services for more information about affordable funeral services.Is a Budget-Friendly Funeral Service Disrespectful to Your Deceased Loved One?
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